11 signs to know, It’s time to LET GO.
Its been a while since I have written about relationships, and i know posting this before Valentine’s Day is rather ironic, but its something I’ve been putting off for awhile and when i got up this morning i decided TODAY, Tanya, will write. 🙂
I chose to write about when its time to let go of a relationship in your life, because a few family and friends seem to be finding themselves floating in between staying or going. Lets face it, falling in love and being in love is one of the best feelings in the world! sometimes we wish it could just stay that way forever because the feeling is so nostalgic and so beautiful that we would never EVER want to let go of that. But, as time and years pass we start noticing a shift. Feelings change, reactions change, that loving feeling starts to get lost, we start turning into different people, then we hit a point where we fight to hold on, and we fight to let go. Have you ever thought that Maybe, the most important lesson and reason behind all this is because this relationship has already served its purpose in your life? As much as we would all love to have that fairy tale romance, which I still believe it exists ! not everyone is meant to be in your life forever. It might have been meant to be at the time, but then there comes a time when you notice the feeling you once had starts to fizzle away, and you look at this person in a different light, deep inside you probably know the answer already but letting go is one of the hardest and most challenging decisions to make. I know many couples who chose to stay due to the fear of having to start all over again, or they stay because they feel bad hurting their partner. The biggest mistake you can make, is to stay when you already know you are unhappy! I hope this write up will help guide you to make the right decision. However, if your still confused, I’m just an email or a phone call away ! 😉
1.) When you start thinking about entertaining other people, or you actually start entertaining other people. – This is a CLEAR sign that there is something else you are looking for that you are not getting in your current relationship, and If you choose to entertain others because you are bored ! then DUHhhhh……….. its time to move on! entertaining other people while you are in a relationship, even if you do not act on it, but you flirt and continuously stay in contact, is considered emotional Cheating. Yes, there is such a thing. plus, you surely wouldn’t like it if your partner did that to you, now. would you ?
2.) When you start to feel like its only you making the effort to make time for each other. If your in a relationship both of you should equally want to spend time and make time to be together, a relationship consists of two people wanting to grow together, so if you are constantly asking your partner when he or she is free to see you, Clearly there is something not right here. Remember no one is EVER too busy to make time for the ones they LOVE.
3.) When you would rather hangout with your friends more than your Partner. Clearly this is a sign that you are not that interested in being with this person 24/7, could it possibly be that maybe, your only keeping them around for some SEXY time? 🤔 this context does not apply to couples who just started getting to know each other, I’m talking about long term, serious relationships.
4.) When you start to feel that your relationship is adding more stress to your life, a relationship should never be stressful, in fact it should push you to want to be a better person and want the best for your partner. If your partner is constantly nagging you, and making you feel like you cant do anything right, then maybe this isn’t the right person for you. REMEMBER relationships are a lot of work, but it should never be stressful. So do yourself a favor and let go of this relationship because i promise you, if they can treat you like that now they will treat you like that forever. Be with someone who brings out the BEST in you, not the STRESS in you.
5.) when you start lose RESPECT for each other, the most important factor in any relationship is TRUST. Trust and respect go hand in hand. Therefor if there is no respect or trust, then it is certainly time to let go! You do not want to be with someone who DISRESPECTS you. you deserve a LOYAL and LOVING partner.
6.) When your partner starts lying to you, Or you start lying to your partner. Lets face it lying SUCKS! especially when you’re the one being lied to. If they cant communicate their needs and wants, or if your partner doesn’t approve of the things you want to do, because they feel the sense and need to control you, then its time to Ditch that douche bag! ( sorry for the foul language. )
7.) If you feel like your constantly walking on Egg shells every time you are together, this is not a relationship you need to be in. If you cant be yourself, or speak your heart out, and you feel like you have to be cautious of everything you say or do because one wrong move might turn into a big fight, then its time to move on. Stop torturing yourself and killing your spirit for someone who cant love you for who you really are. Maybe they do love you, but clearly if they are always on to you and wanting to pick a fight over little things then this person needs to fix their insecurities and be alone. No one should be in a relationship that wont allow you to be yourself.
8.) If they are constantly trying to change or control you. If your partner is constantly nagging you to change the person that you are, then this is a clear sign that this person does not see or accept you for who you really are, and that is not someone you want to spend the rest of your life with now, is it? Let it go. before you lose your identity. Find someone who loves you with all the weirdness that you have! there is nothing more amazing than being with someone who loves you for you, and Don’t give up because i know he is out there!
9.) You catch yourself holding on to the relationship because of the happy moments you shared. I was in the Same boat before, If your in a relationship that’s already lost its spark, and you can see its going down hill but you still choose to stay because somewhere inside you keep remembering how good things use to be , and maybe one day it will come back again, you need to stop living in the past. A good and healthy relationship is suppose to get stronger as the time goes, not die down with time. if there are more bad memories than the good you cant keep holding on to the past sweetheart, you gotta let it go.
10.) You often find yourself thinking about your Ex – If your in a bad relationship that starts making you think that you relationship with your ex was better, then this is a clear sign that you are not with the right person. you need to find and be with someone that can make you forget about your past completely.
11.) If your relationship is holding you back. If you are with someone who keeps holding you back from chasing your dreams, achieving your goals, from being the person you always wanted to be, then you need to move on. Find someone who will help you and push you to follow your dreams. someone who admires you for knowing what you want in life ! you don’t want to look back one day and regret giving all your dreams up for someone that didn’t want to make your dreams come true.
I hope my post will help you make the right decision, its never easy when it comes to matters of the heart and who we give it to. But its better so know and be aware of the signs so you can be strong enough to move on, and never EVER forget to love yourself first ! once you fall in love with yourself, and know who you are, and what you want, you will never settle for anything but the BEST. Good luck to all of you looking to make that change, I know its going to hard, but I PROMISE you that you will thank me later for taking my advice. ❤️💛❤️💛
SENDING LOVE AND LIGHT to all !